Having a foundation in a home is the most important thing for a home to have. It is something and a home owner never really sees, that being so a home with out one will fall and never stand for long. When thinking about this it reminds me of the move “Monty Python and the Holly Grail”. In the scene we see a king talking to his son about how his family came to be in their castle. The father claims that his fellow man said that there was no way you could build here on this land because it was a swamp. The stubborn king decided to do it anyways. The king then continues saying that his first try sank into the swamp… then continues so I build another one… and that one sank into the swamp. So he built a third one and that one stood strong then was burn down fell over and then sank into the swamp. However the fourth one stood strong. The castle in this story never stood strong tell the failed attempts formed a foundation for the castle to stand strong. In our families we do not want to have to try and build our family four times before we get out true place to stand. It is so important to form a foundation as soon as possible for the family to have strong walls and love in the home.

            Having strong communication is a fundamental to having a strong foundations. Something that I have found being married and having a little one is that things change in the world and situations form new Ideas and feeling towards things. New light is shed on parenthood from research and from personal experience. Child grow and their attitudes change towards different things. I recently found that my son was not being effected by his current punishment technique was not showing the same results as they use to. I noticed this with my wife one day and poorly communicated that we need to change our approach. This then lead into a heated discussion, as we like to call them.  If I was able to follow our established communication skills we would have just had a discussion on the matter rather then a heated one. This really showed how we need to have constant vigilance, as fake professor Moody would put it. This will help us in the future to keep our family strong and to have our foundation hold us up through the storms of life.

            Another part of the foundation that we need to form is one of learning to make decisions as a couple and eventually as a family. My family has a hard time making decisions. We like to mostly put out something that needs to happen and wait for the other to come up with the answer. This is something simple but it relates to the bigger chooses that we have to make. Many times we go about the day and I finish my homework and ask my wife what she wants to do… not really knowing what I want to do. She usually responds with what ever you want to. We end up going back and forth tell one of us makes the choice and we end up going with what ever that choice is. This is really not the best way to do this. We need to work more on trying to make the choice together as a family to create a happier family. This simple example really can lead to problems further in a relationship. One being like where are we going to live, what school are the child going to go to and what are we going to save up for, what home is going to be the one we live in. This decision making is one of the most important things to create in your foundation.

            On a final not I want to point out something very important for everyone to remember, it is easier to create a foundation early on rather then building a home and going back through the foundation and building it up.