Divorce is something that a lot of people have the wrong information on. For one a lot of people have heard that one half of all marriages end in divorce. This was a predictor that was made in the 70’s. The predictor was pointing out that if the trends continued then divorce would happen in half of the marriages. The fact is that around 72% of people who are married die married to that person showing us that marriages are better off then what everyone puts them out to be.

            However not all the news on this subject is good. Sadly studies have found that the average father lives 400 miles from their 12 year old child. This is because of many factors that the mom could be running away from him, or running to her support group which is further away, and the father finds a better job far away from where the mom is living. This is really sad because of how important it is to have a father figure in the family like I have talked about before. This also becomes particularly hard because of the fact that age 12 the child starts to participate in out side of school activities. With this going on it becomes harder for the child to bounce from house to house because then they miss things that they are signed up for.

            A common trend into day that I have talked about with others around me and with my wife is that we tend to fall into this pattern of if something is hard we give up on it. Especially when it comes to marriage. With the ability to become separated or divorced from a spouse readably available for people they tend to give up and not try other options. This leads to what studies have found that 70% of people wish they had tried other options then just giving up and getting a divorce. This has no longer become our last ditch effort but now is plan A and thinking there was no other way. When there are a lot of other options that could have a couple stay together this will help children growing up in this new generation believe in marriage and want to trust and care for others. The truth is that people who get married and already have kids have a high chance of getting divorce and putting themselves in a hard spot once again and their kids in an even harder situation. The truth is people need to try more and give things more thought. What I have learned over the past three months is that we do not try as hard as we use to. We like to take the easy way out but marriage is not easy or does it come naturally. It is the greatest thing to be married and have kids but to make it work right it takes heart and love and understanding to make it though. There are a lot of predictors that we talked about in class on if a couple will get a divorce and there are a lot of reasons to get a divorce as well. However the best reason to stay and fight is because the greatest joy that we can get in this life is the joy that comes from having a family and changing to help those that we love and care for.

            Family is something we in the world take for advantage today. We are wrong for doing that we need to love and care for it so much more then we are right now. This is something worth fighting for.